Some of us who care have watched with sorrow the decades of the sexual revolution come to America. So much was happening in the decade of the 1960's. Dramatic political change was coming. Presidents and politicians were assassinated. But behind that, and deeper, came an inexorable urge and drive to cast off the restraints of sexual custom that seemed to have come from the moral restraint that was taught and practiced by the religious traditions of our society.
Those restraints had been in the whole spirit of our nation's founding. A high sense of community and caring for each other. In Puritan New England, single people often became part of families where they could live together in fellowship.
But, by the 1960's, "the whole place was coming loose" as one theologian of the day said. Poets saw the disintegration beginning and prophesied "and the center cannot hold." "The world ends," T.S. Eliot said, "not with a bang, but a whimper."
The strengthening ties of family, of marriage, of social relations, and government relation, and finally, of the church itself, gave way.
We don't remember our acquiescence in that, much less our leadership in that. But now so many are part of the retaliation.
A presumed victim of teen-age drunken sexual assault, confesses now that she never told her parents or anyone because she would need to reveal that she had been to a party where alcohol and illegal, under-age drinking was taking place. In the code of her family she should not have been there under those circumstances. She knew better. The boys knew better, too, but the moral restraints that preserve dignity and integrity by the 1980's had already shredded.
We weep and rage, but we do not want to take responsibility ourselves. Our society "colludes," in agreeing to find someone to blame.
It is the game that began long ago in the Garden, when sin insinuated itself in the family of Man, and "blame game" began.
It is not "loose woman," or "bad boys." It is society gone soft, wanting no one to be able to tell anyone else how to live, but all of us making personal choice our top priority. Until that choice has become more sacred than the creation and protection of life itself.
We have delivered ourselves over to be a spiritual, social, and surely sexual dyslexia. We can't see straight. We see double-minded. We are among those whom Jesus saw as "the blind."
It is time to work our way back to the faith, to ancient and trusted truths that long have told us what is right and what is wrong. Jesus said it is the narrow path through the "narrow gate that leads to life!"
Arthur A Rouner, Jr -
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