Getting along with others – especially the nearest and dearest – has always been hard work.
So hard to say, “Sorry, I was wrong.” Even harder to say, “please forgive me.”
It calls for a humility we really mean. It also calls for a sensitivity that enables us to realize when, and how, we have hurt someone.
Words do hurt. Especially the thoughtless ones, where we didn’t really consider what our words would mean to the other person.
That pitfall could push us to think much more about the other person. About his or her life. About his or her character. About what he or she stands for and is trying to “be” in this world, in his or her own life. Most of those close to us, whom we care about as friends, as family – so important to us.
Our work in life is partly trying to help others be what they want to be – the best that they can be. I live with someone who never holds a grudge. A hurt or wound, she just lets it pass over her. She “does not let the sun go down upon her anger,” as Jesus so wisely taught.
It can be learned. It is deeply worth trying. How much happier all our relations can be. Thinking about others. Having a care for them. Changing our own way in order to help the other live out her or his way.
Having gratitude helps. Saying thanks to each other, and to God.
Jesus’ way. It can be ours.
Bless you, friend.
Arthur A Rouner, Jr -
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All this is from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation. . ."